Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Being Human had its swan song and now its all over but the crying

Being Human is over. I shall miss you guys so much.
I sit here late at night writing this post because I can't get the images of the series finale for SyFy's Being Human out of my head. This was a gem of a series not because it did anything ground breaking with the mythology behind werewolves, ghosts, and vampires, but because it focused so much on the characters and how their love for each other was all that mattered when they died.

Being Human in its final hour made me sob so many times. The first time came only moments into the show when Sally (by far my favorite character) made the choice to cast a spell that would claim her immortal soul, but she did it because it was the only way to keep Josh safe from an enraged Aiden. Through season after season I thought for sure that Sally would eventually get her door. She missed her door in season one when she helped Aidan, so this isn't how things are supposed to end, right? But that's exactly how it ended, and Sally did what Sally always did: she made a choice out of love, door be damned. And her goodbye was so perfect and so filled with good that it just didn't seem right that this is how this character goes out.

In monologue came the most profound explanation behind Sally's choice:

"The day they moved in was the best day. It felt like the start of something new, something good. After everything that had gone so wrong with my life, they walked in that door and they brought possibility. When you look back at your life with a person, sometimes you wonder, would we be friends if we met now? Or did the path that we went on together lead us to this place? Did every triumph and mistake along the way make us fall in love? I think that everything happens for a reason: love, life, even death. I hold onto this place for a reason, and that reason is now."

In the aftermath of Sally's sacrifice (that made Aidan human) the once mighty vampire is laid low first by sadness at losing Sally, and second by the thread of his own mortality which is quickly overtaking him. All those centuries start to catch up on Aidan, turning his hair gray, and making him move like a man in his nineties. With the specter of dying (and the fear that results from that) Aidan almost makes a choice to become a vampire again. However Josh stops him, and in that redemption I got a new respect for Aidan because he decides to make sure that Josh and Nora would go on to live happy lives by returning to the house that lay at the center of their world. He did this to burn it down in order to kill a malicious ghost that haunted it (and was murdering people because they all moved out). Josh says in monologue to a dream (one Josh and Nora seem to have shared):

"The day we moved in was the first day of my life. Before then, before them, I had no chance, I didn't think I could feel human, feel love. The little things--coffee grounds, laundry day, sleeping late, living life--thank you for every small moment of this world."

I guess Josh's words reminds me of that song, "Little Wonders" sung by Rob Thomas of Matchbox 20. Have you heard it? In any event, each of the cast central to this series gets to say something profound in this final episode. But, I think Aidan's final haunting words as he's dying in their home near Sally's death spot captures the essence of the series the best (and very poetically):

"When the end comes rushing up at you and everything that you thought was real starts to fall away, you consider the meaning of the life that you lived and you realize that the only thing that means a damn thing at the end is what you loved. And you think of who you loved, and you let it take you home."

Oh my gosh. I guess all that ever really matters to any of us who are human is the feeling of home, right? Some like to say it's where you hang your hat. But really, it's where you are loved and where your memories are forged. Home is the place that defines you. This finale was bittersweet but very satisfying. There are series that end with characters leaving an empty apartment or whatever place brought them together. This one ended with Josh and Nora as the parents of two adorable kids named Aidan and Sally. And therein is the true prize: Josh and Nora made it. They got to be happy and have a family.

Josh told Aidan's ghost right as he got his door (a thing that vampires are never supposed to be able to get), "We promise to live ridiculous lives in your honor." The chemistry of this cast made this the little series that could, and I think I'll never forget how it made me feel when all things came to an end.


  1. It's over and I never even saw one episode...
    At lease it had a few years run time. Most shows don't get that now.

  2. Never watched it or the British version.

  3. The good news is I can rent and watch the show all at once now! That is a powerful ending message. :)

  4. I had to skip most of this post and skim the rest because I'm only in the first season of this show and I'm trying to live spoiler-free.

    But if I skimmed correctly, it sounds like you enjoyed it, and I'm very happy to hear that. Means I probably will too.

  5. Sounds like a good ending. I saw the first season but then stopped watching (I forget why). Maybe I'll go back and watch the reruns (do you call it reruns on Netflix? I probably should get Netflix...)

  6. I'm sorry your show was cancelled and I'm glad it wasn't ruined with an unsatisfying ending. Now I want to find the shows and watch them.

  7. Most American remakes pale in comparison to their British original but that wasn't true of Being Human. I'm glad they ended it when they did as there is nothing sadder than watching a show when the writers have run out of ideas (HIMYM!)

    One thing I always loved about the show was the realism (I know this is a strange comment to make about fictional show about the supernatural).

    It annoys me when shows about vampires/werewolves make sure all the characters are perfectly attired all the time. That was not the case on Being Human. Both Meaghan Rath and Krisen Hager are stunning women but I swear both characters were covered in grime and had perpetual bed-head for most of the series. This show wasn't Vampire Diaries - it was Being Human and Syfy gained my respect for allowing the American creators to stick to its vision and see it through to the end.

  8. I loved those characters too though sometimes I didn't care for the storyline.

  9. Haven't seen it, but I'm currently up to season II of The Walking Dead.

  10. I never watched the show, but your description of the last episode is so striking. How profound the characters' final words were, and how human -- ironic, considering it was a paranormal show. Most of the time shows don't end on perfect notes, but it sounds as if this one did. In a way, I'm glad I didn't see it because I probably would have cried too.

  11. I saw the British version and hated the end. I only watched a few of this version but this end sounds so much better! I cry at commercials, so I'm glad I read about it instead of watched it! Well done!

  12. I refused to watch the American version... it's one of those great original British shows and making their international versions is pure sin..... and blashphemy .... especially since the original show stars our beloved gay actor Russell Tovey....